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First, we want to say welcome! You're here for one of a couple reasons ...
You think you may have a problem with sex, pornography, chat lines, etc.,
You know you have a problem but don't know what to do about it,
You feel incredible shame and want to try and find a solution to your addiction online,
You are trying to save your relationships,
or ... You're working recovery and want to find confidential help for your partner.
For any of those reasons, or a different one altogether, you are in a safe location. And you are not alone. Recent survey statistics show that up to 65% of men view pornography at least once a month 1.
And it is killing you.
It's killing your relationships. It's time to act now.
The struggles we have seen men go through is heart wrenching to say the least. But can we be totally honest and tell you, you can't do this alone. If you're like most men, you will try. At least a few times. The disease of sex addiction though, is not one that can be conquered by itself. You need other men to both help educate you as well as to hold you accountable.
Is your relationship worth it? Are you worth it? YES! It's about honesty. And getting real with yourself for a change.
A little more honesty here. If you're like some of those men who have tried to stop but can't, you are probably living in shame for not being able to "take care of this" on your own. Stopping porn, or any form of sex addiction, is no different than trying to quit cocaine 2. Not just playing with words here as there have been studies that compare the two. They light up the same part of the brain. So, just like you wouldn't do a very good job of stopping cocaine on your own, you need help with your sex addiction.
If you're like most guys just starting to understand your addiction, you will go through the stage of, "well, I can just cut back". Friend, let me tell you that leaving even an inch of yourself in this dark world will suck you back in. Just like you couldn't do just "a little" cocaine, you can't do just a little sex addiction. It's all or nothing.
3 Ways Pornography is Devastating Your Wife"Many men don’t realize how damaging pornography is to their wives. Most will admit their wives don’t approve of it. However, this is often because they believe their wives simply view it as “dirty.” Women’s reasons for despising pornography go deeper. For them it’s a devastating attack that reaches down to their very core.
This is what Max discovered when he and his wife Kelly sought counseling because of his pornography use. Although he knew she wouldn’t like it, Max initially thought there was nothing wrong with occasionally viewing porn." Continue reading the rest of this amazing article at Covenant Eyes.
One of your first steps that you can do on your own though, is to put some protections in place. For us, that was internet filtering that was comprehensive, accountable, works on our devices, works well without being "glitchy" and is affordable. For us, that is Covenant Eyes. OK, so here's a little more honesty - clicking the links on this page may provide us with a small commission. Said. Done.
Lastly, if you're in a relationship that has been damaged - and let's face it, if your partner knows, there's damage - watch this video for 8 steps you can take to rebuild trust.
Lastly, if you're in a relationship that has been damaged - and let's face it, if your partner knows, there's damage - watch this video for 8 steps you can take to rebuild trust.
Here's a great e-booklet that will shed some light on your brain on porn:
1. www.covenanteyes.com
2. http://fightthenewdrug.org/porn-is-like-a-drug/
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